So Danny like every other child wants to and needs to be able to experience family holidays. We have taken him several times abroad, but it’s been very stressful to say the least. Thankfully airports now have Autisim assistance which makes things easier as we don’t have to que for long periods of time in the noise and bright lights , it’s all too much .
I think the hardest thing I have had to manage is my patience and temper when at the airports or on the plane, and not because it’s hard to deal with Danny ..but the other people !!! We have had people stare and shake their heads when Danny’s has been in distress and in meltdown, I even told an older man to move before I gave him a picture , also on the plane I had a lady in front of me making her feelings very clear saying in a loud voice ” I hope he doesn’t scream like that all the bloody way !” Needless to say my mum who was behind me had to hold me down in my seat by that point lol.
Holidays at the caravan aren’t much different but the people where we go seem to understand us all better and don’t judge us. It’s a beautiful peaceful place called Pease bay , it’s right on a small beach by the water, yes it’s bloody cold most of the time,but I myself enjoy the feeling of freedom there , the peace, even when Danny kicks of in one of his violent meltdowns .
This was one of my notes during my recent visit a few weeks ago when I was struggling to cope…….
This was one of my notes during my recent visit a few weeks ago when I was struggling to cope…….
“Just taken another blow from Danny, lower back …right on my bulged disk …..
Had to walk away or I might have lost it .
Back at the caravan now and I’ve taken pain killers and now lying down as the pain is bad…
Danny totally unaware of what he has done , he’s just watching tv with daddy.
I’m lying here crying and in pain while listening to the kids all outside playing on their scooters and running around laughing…
Why can’t my boy be like that ……
How.much more can I take ? What do I do ?
How can I help him and stop the violence. “
So even in the best of places, the most peaceful or busy holidays we always and will probably always struggle to have a great family holiday, sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it, but I ha e to give Danny these experiences in life , at least I can say I tried all I could to let him have a good normal childhood as best as i could.
But i will always dread the holidays.
Our life 
Proud of you for all you are doing to give Danny what you are able…Also heartbroken for all you have to endure to do so…
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Thank you very much, hoping by being honest it may help other families , so they know they are not alone , and that other people are having to deal with the same.
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